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MODERN DATING: THE GOOD, THE BAD, AND THE UGLY<\/strong><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

by Giulia Orsenigo<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think about dating all the time. Depending on the day, I could be thinking about how it\u2019s really fun, or I could be thinking about how I\u2019d rather sign up for medieval torture than partake in it ever again.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I also think about other things, like whether or not that time I went to watch Moulin Rouge! <\/em>with my co-worker was a date (it was), or whether that forehead kiss a guy gave me after hooking up meant that he was in love with me (it didn\u2019t). Mostly I think about whether or not heteronormative dating culture is designed to systemically oppress its non-male participants (it is!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dating expert Blythe Roberson<\/a> says that part of what makes dating inherently oppressive is the very fact that we think about it so much. “For thousands of years, women have been reduced to their worth as sexual objects slash domestic workers,” said Roberson. “So we learn very early on to go to great lengths to increase our sexual value in the eyes of men, and we do it without even realizing it.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

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The sad truth is\u2026 we can\u2019t really help it. From an early age, women are taught to value love and romance above anything else. From the princess movies we sang-along to, to the family dinners we attended in which our drunk uncles interrogated us about our non-existent love lives\u2026 we have been conditioned to think about love all the time<\/em>. So a lot of us can\u2019t really help constantly ruminating over it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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